If you’ve been keeping up with the Kinki blog, you’ve probably learned about a few libido killers that you would have never expected, and this next one is definitely something that will catch most people off guard.
We all know too much time on our phones can have an impact on us. From doomscrolling wrecking our mental health, to forming social anxiety from not talking in-person enough, phones can be an issue. However, we bet you never thought that your daily phone habit could wreck your libido.
Yes, too much screen time can lower your libido and ruin your sex drive. It’s more complicated than that, though. Keep reading, and we’ll go over the different ways screen time affects you and the best way to get your sex drive back.
How Your Phone Lowers Your Libido
Screen time does a few things that can lead to you having a lower libido.
1. Distractions
It’s hard for your libido to work naturally if you’re constantly distracted by the latest news, all the new videos your favorite content creator made, and a bunch of other junk.
Your sexual desire doesn’t just pop into existence from thin air. It’s typically triggered by something. If you’re preoccupied with all the garbage on the internet, you miss all those triggers.
2. Disconnected Relationship
This isn’t directly tied to your libido, but it does affect your partner’s. People don’t tend to be very attracted to people who pretty much ignore them.
When you spend too much time staring at your phone worrying about the latest social media trend, you can make your partner feel neglected emotionally, and their sex drive can turn right off. Once that happens, even if your libido does fire up, you probably won’t be getting any.
After a long enough time with that being the norm, your sexual relationship can smolder, and your connection can be weakened even beyond sex.
3. Comparison, Anxiety, or Unrealistic Expectations
Too much screen time is bad on its own, but what you’re looking at can also greatly affect your libido. Especially if you’re in a long-term relationship with one person.
Everybody knows about sexual content and how that can give you unrealistic expectations or draw your attention away from your partner to people on a screen, but other types of content can do that, too.
When you find yourself tuning into different types of content for arousal, your desire can be redirected elsewhere, and that definitely hits your sex life hard.
Online content can also impact your self-esteem.
You might compare yourself to that super-fit influencer you watch a lot, or you might listen to sex-based podcasts and start doubting your own abilities. Then, anxiety starts to take over your sex life. That directly kills your libido.
One thing that really stands out is how popular it is for online content to describe “icks” or things that turn people off. Maybe you do something nerdy, and your screen time continuously shows you people who are calling your favorite hobby an “ick”.
Well, you’re likely to start doubting your partner’s acceptance of it, and that can weaken libido by making you feel self-conscious.
4. Physical Changes
Of course, there are physical changes, too. When you sit on your phone all the time, you’re not working out, you’re probably idly snacking, and your overall wellness drops. Wellness is directly tied to your libido. The worse your physical condition is, the lower your libido usually is.
The physical changes are also in your brain. Different types of content can impact how your brain is wired, and it can completely change the way you get aroused and how your hormones work.
Overcoming Libido Problems from Screen Time
An important thing to point out is that none of this means you need to chuck your phone in the trash and never touch it again. You simply have to limit yourself and use your screen time wisely.
There are a few things you can do to help.
1. Limit Screen Time
First and foremost, you need to immediately set boundaries between you and your phone. Pick a reasonable amount of time for you to doomscroll and watch videos each day and then stick to it.
The longer you’re on the phone, the more likely it is to impact your sex life. So, restrictions are important.
We also recommend finding alternatives to the things you love with screen time. If you like video games, try tabletop. If you’re very social, join a group of some sort that meets regularly instead of doing it all on social media. Lots of the things the internet has replaced are still around, and taking advantage of them can be great for your wellness and libido.
2. Avoid Sexualized or Stressful Content
A lot of libido problems come from using your screen time for sexualized or stressful content. The sexual stuff rewires how your brain gets aroused, and that’s not going to work well with your real sex life. You can see an attractive person here and there, but you definitely don’t want to have your nose buried in the really raunchy stuff 24/7.
Stressful content is also something that has to be restricted. We’re not saying you have to tune out of the real world, but try not to doomscroll and put all the world’s problems on your plate. Stress is a libido killer.
3. Move Around
To help with the physical problems that come from staring at a phone, you have to get out and exercise. You don’t have to be addicted to the gym but stay active. It’s great for your wellness and your sex drive.
Try Kinki
The problem with screen time restrictions and lifestyle changes is that, while they work, they take time. They’re also hard to stick to, and you’re likely to backslide a bit.
Kinki can help support you right now.
Kinki has a powerful blend of ashwagandha, maca, longjack, DHEA, rhodiola, and red ginseng to support libido, mood, energy, and focus when your phone has been pulling you out of the moment. You should still try to control your screen time, but Kinki gives you something useful while you’re building better habits.
And when you want something discreet for travel, date nights, or spontaneous moments away from the screen, the Kinki Honey Pack gives you another easy option for supporting energy, stamina, and romantic engagement without making the whole thing complicated.
Don’t let the phone ruin your sex life. Try Kinki.